my grandmother asked me to tell you she's sorry by Fredrik Backman || thoughts 2
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"'We have to call the child's legal guardian,' the policeman explains calmly.
'I am also the child's legal guardian! I am the child's grandmother!' Granny fumes, rising slightly out of her chair and shaking her unlit cigarette menacingly.
'It's half past one in the morning. Someone has to take care of the child.'
'Yes, me! I'm taking care of the child!' she splutters.
The policeman makes a fairly strained attempt to gesture amicably across the interrogation room.
'And how do you feel it's going so far?'" (p6)
'I am also the child's legal guardian! I am the child's grandmother!' Granny fumes, rising slightly out of her chair and shaking her unlit cigarette menacingly.
'It's half past one in the morning. Someone has to take care of the child.'
'Yes, me! I'm taking care of the child!' she splutters.
The policeman makes a fairly strained attempt to gesture amicably across the interrogation room.
'And how do you feel it's going so far?'" (p6)
I'm re-reading this book because someone persuaded me to read the sequel, and I randomly spotted the sequel at the library and took it home with me, so now I have a deadline to make (the due date). But I never really liked this book, to be honest with you, and I could never figure out why when I'm madly in love with Anxious People and A Man Called Ove, two other books by the same author. This book is no less silly and chaotic and hilarious and well-written. But a couple pages in, I think maybe I know why? It's two parts:
a) I've never been close to my grandparents. (Truthfully, I've never been very close to anybody except my mom.) This is inherently a novel about a little girl and her chaos incarnate grandmother. This grandmother is beloved and well-meaning and a little bit crazy in the best of ways. But I've never had a connection like this, so I can't really relate as much as I'd like to.
b) This grandmother is CRAZY. She's such a rule-breaker, such a rebel, such a pirate. She smokes, she apparently climbed a fence and broke into a zoo, and she throws out the wildest politically-incorrect statements. (She compared not being allowed to smoke to 1984.) I hate pirates. I'm the goodiest-two-shoes you've ever met, and I'm not a fan of this lady's utter disregard for her granddaughter's safety. It just makes me uncomfortable. I get that she has good intentions and has helped Elsa in many ways, but she also seems to be a bad influence.
To be fair, I don't remember the ending of the book at all (or anything in between), so maybe these pirate issues will be addressed. But right now all I'm seeing is a slightly-insane grandmother who's about to send her granddaughter on an equally-insane mission that will put her in harm's way. It's maybe not ideal. There may have been easier ways for Elsa to grieve and commemorate her grandmother.
a) I've never been close to my grandparents. (Truthfully, I've never been very close to anybody except my mom.) This is inherently a novel about a little girl and her chaos incarnate grandmother. This grandmother is beloved and well-meaning and a little bit crazy in the best of ways. But I've never had a connection like this, so I can't really relate as much as I'd like to.
b) This grandmother is CRAZY. She's such a rule-breaker, such a rebel, such a pirate. She smokes, she apparently climbed a fence and broke into a zoo, and she throws out the wildest politically-incorrect statements. (She compared not being allowed to smoke to 1984.) I hate pirates. I'm the goodiest-two-shoes you've ever met, and I'm not a fan of this lady's utter disregard for her granddaughter's safety. It just makes me uncomfortable. I get that she has good intentions and has helped Elsa in many ways, but she also seems to be a bad influence.
To be fair, I don't remember the ending of the book at all (or anything in between), so maybe these pirate issues will be addressed. But right now all I'm seeing is a slightly-insane grandmother who's about to send her granddaughter on an equally-insane mission that will put her in harm's way. It's maybe not ideal. There may have been easier ways for Elsa to grieve and commemorate her grandmother.